Dear Barnaby,
I hope you can help, I’m faced with the dilemma of whether to let a friend know that they have become completely up their own arse. This info would deeply bruise they’re ego but its clearly obvious that recently they’ve become deluded into thinking they are some sort of superstar. They’ve set up their own website, blog and think they’re experienced enough to advise other people on how to live their life – he even chooses them feel good songs – I would suggest that he applies to do the ‘Mellow madness’ slot on Magic fm but he’d only take it as a compliment. I’m just not sure whether he’d take the advice well or use this email as an example of how people who criticise other people on how they live their lives are deeply unhappy with theirs (a classic Trisha device) or whether, like he advertises, he’ll tell the truth.
Hoping he’s not beyond help,
Yours,
Worried from London.
Hey worried,
I feel for you. I know somebody like this myself.
I have to say though… I am worried that the reason you may have written an email of this ilk is because you are actually deeply unhappy yourself. Has that crossed your mind at all? I fear that you are doing a classic reversal technique of directing the worry and unhappiness in your own life onto a friend as opposed to facing up to your own problems. I could be wrong, although admittedly I’m yet to experience what being wrong feels like.
Maybe you should just write to him and tell him these things. It sounds like he needs to know.
Cheers,
barnaby
My suggested soundtrack:
You Oughta Know – Alanis Morisette
FURB – Frankee
It’s Because Of People Like You – Obi Best
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