Dear Barnaby,
I am a 20 year old female. I like to think I am a normal, attractive, healthy, decent human being. However, I’m having difficulty finding me a man and I cannot figure out why. I am happy in my life without a man, don’t get me wrong, but it would be nice to have some male company too. Part of it is because I am shy and am sick of the bar scene to meet guys. I go to beauty school full time and it’s female dominated so I just don’t know where to meet a nice fellow. Can you give me some suggestions as to where all the good men lurk?
Sincerely,
I hope I don’t sound desperate
Hey IHIDSD,
Hmmm… well you’ve got to put yourself out there at least a bit more. The bar scene is good for flirting at least, and the more you flirt the better you’ll feel about yourself, but admittedly – I don’t find meeting people in bars makes for much chance of a serious relationship. Friends of friends usually work better. Speak to some of your girlfriends at beauty school, they’ll have some single male friends and the good thing is that they’ll vet out the ones who they know won’t be suitable.
I could tell you where all the men lurk – but i’m not sure you’d want a ‘lurker’. Not if you’re normal, attractive and decent as you said before.
Cheers,
barnaby
