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Hey barnaby,
My trouble is that I’ve been seeing this guy, who is lovely. We’ve only been seeing each other briefly, but he has kept in touch talking almost everyday. Things were going really well and we both seemed on the same page. Suddenly, the other day, everything switched round and he started being really weird. When i decided to ask him what was going on, he explained he’d never had a long term girlfriend, and didn’t know how to act, and what to do.
Is he telling the truth?
I’m not sure whether I should just let it go, get out before i get hurt, or assume he was being genuine and stick around with the risk of being totally played. I do really like him, and I’m willing to put in the effort. What should I do? Please help me Barnaby!
A
Hey A,
If he had revealed his insecurity about a lack of experience right away then I’d be inclined to believe him. However, that he did it after a while makes me doubt his honesty. There is, of course, the possibility that it could be about sex. Have you had sex with each other yet? If not then maybe he’s getting nervous and wants things to go a bit slower. If this is the case, then I reckon he’s a virgin.
Without knowing either of you, your lives or your ages i’m going out on a limb guessing this. But if he’s brave enough to tell you he’s never had a girlfriend, then maybe he’s a sensitive, inexperienced soul who needs a bit of cajouling along with the more intimate side of life.
Cheers,
barnaby
