Hey barnaby,
I have a question; why does an otherwise normal mentally and emotionally healthy girl like me end up falling for emotionally unavailable unattainable, romantically retarded self centered men? I’m really close friends with a lot of guys and chill with them but there’s only ever a spark or attraction with the guys that screw me over. Is it me? Am I secretly sabotaging myself coz I’m a closet lesbian or am I a relationship masochist? Please help!!
Sasha
Hey Sasha
Because good guys and good girls are boring. We all know it. Even my 80 year old mother still turns down the guys who would treat her well…
The problem is… we are all attracted to the people with the glint in their eye. It’s the people who can hurt us that turn us on because we are all egotistical enough to think that we can change them. Unfortunately, the only people who can change THEM are the ones who can or will screw THEM over. If that’s not you then its never going to happen.
So…Sacha… are you a closet lesbian? No. Are you a relationship masochist? No. Well, maybe a bit. But the honest truth i’m afraid to say is that you are normal. Just floating around in the dating ocean waiting to find what is right for you.
So, in short – keep meeting the emotionally unavailable and unobtainable men… and when you do, be a little more unavailable and unobtainable yourself – then you’ll see what they’re really like. And i’m afraid to say… they’ll probably start acting like pathetic little bitches. And then you’ll yearn for something different.
Cheers,
barnaby
My suggested soundtrack:
Where Is My Mind – The Pixies
The Boy With The Thorn In His Side – The Smiths
Kill You – Eminem
