Hey Barnaby,
This summer I am working somewhere with college students doing a nerdy project. One day this awesome guy (smart, gorgeous, nice, easy to talk to) who I knew from my high school came up to me and chatted for a bit to see how things were going. I was really surprised to see him because we hadn’t seen each other in a year, but we’ve been talking more little by little. I’m pretty sure he has a thing for me judging from how I catch him looking at me and how he talks to me.
I thought he liked me at high school too, but nothing ever came of that. There isn’t a big age difference, but he’s in college now and I’m still in high school. And this may just be teenage insecurity, but I’m in a wheelchair (not like a cerebral palsy kind of deal — I just can’t walk, everything else is normal), so I can’t help but worry that that’ll get in the way of him ever making a move, along with the college/high school thing…and he’s a little shy, to top it off. So I guess my questions are: what do you think? How can I get him to make a move?
Thanks a lot,
Y
Hey Y,
What have you got to lose?
From what you’ve written it sounds like the guy likes you, and he may have all the same worries that you have. You should make the first move on him. It’s 2009, men wear perfume, moisturise and use vibrators. We’re basically all just overly hirsute women these days so he might just need a nudge in the right direction.
Worst case scenario is he says no and you can move on. Don’t leave it in limbo and then blame yourself when you see him with someone else and wonder whether it could have been you. Especially if that someone else is also in a wheelchair, that would really piss you off!
Cheers,
barnaby
